Make Peace with your "Big"

There's a show that I can't entirely recommend (but one that has great moments mixed in with the mayhem). So why am I bringing it up? One of the characters is a GREAT example of the man that we often need to "face the facts" over but often don't want to.

His name is "Big".

He's the man that shows up when he wants to and when he wants something. The interactions are usually about him, and then he disappears when he's done. And she...lets him.

Totally a situation of USING. It's perpetuated, of course, by the fear of loneliness that the woman bears. A little something is better than nothing...oh dear. To be honest...it can be a mutual using as she gets something out of it too. It may even be the hope that she will be the beauty that tames the beast...maybe so he'll turn around and rescue her right back.

Messy.

And a waste of heart.

So...it's time to make peace with your "Big". Cut things off...get your "self" and your self-respect back.

Also...take credit for your willingness to be a part of an arrangement like that. You need to be a better friend to yourself...and the men in your life.